Never compare your Child with other Children

Assam · December 17, 2008

Often we see that many parents compares that kids with other children. Those parents thinks that it will help in improving the performance of their children. Even in schools many teachers compares students with one another. But, the fact is that comparing with other children is the single most devastating thing a parent can do to ruin his or her child’s self-esteem. Unfortunately, comparisons are very much a part of our culture particularly our schooling system. One of the ways a child gets compared to other children is through peer pressure.

Self-esteem of Your Child

Every child knows that there is tremendous pressure from other children, particularly from the ones in school to conform to the ways of a certain group. That is why in school you can see several cliques and these groups can be identified with different labels. There are the jocks, the jerks, the nerd or geek, the addict etc. These groups are inherently not bad but many times group’s identity precedes the individual’s identity which could lead into a loss in identity and eventually low self-esteem.

For most adults these are just groups and labels but for a young innocent child the cliques are their world. Your child intentionally or not gets labeled and his or her tendency to is group with the ones with similar ideas and interests.

So, if you want to build self-esteem of your child, always praise and encourage them. Always use positive and encouraging words, while talking with your child. This is very important, specially when you are answering to your child’s problems. When they do something wrong, never say something that will hurt their ego or self-esteem. Praising and encouraging children provides them with a positive self image of themselves. For them, it means that they are important enough for you to notice and recognize their achievements in life. This also ensures psychological well being of your child.

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